Day 3 Small Spells for Pleasure: Sacred Darkness

Published: Fri, 12/12/25

Small Spells for Pleasure: Sacred Darkness (week 3)

Hey babe! Today is all about Finding Pleasure in the Dark.

We're inching towards the longest night of the year, the sacred dark. Today we call in big Pleasure and joy for ourselves! Do it with me. What would make you feel really (and I mean REALLY) joyful right now?

Today's Pleasure Spell revolves around darkness and rest. To allow ourselves space to be in soft light, to gently tend our achy bodies, and to rest as we need to is about recognizing our Divinity and worth. Who says we have to be working all the time? Who says the majority of our day has to be lit up bright for productivity's sake? Rest is joyful. This is a seasonal magical practice—recognizing the energy of winter practiced by all creatures and plant friends on earth.

When we spend time with darkness and our shadows, we grow to love them as friends- guiding, protecting, and informing our lives. All parts of you deserve care, and I'm here to remind you that Pleasure is still your birthright even if you don't always feel able to access it. Shadows are metaphors for parts of us we don't give a lot of attention to (after all, our society really prioritizes light over dark), so chances are your Pleasure practice is a part of your shadow. Maybe you don't feel worthy, or there is guilt associated with it? Today is the perfect day to name those feelings, hold gratitude for their mystery, and compost them to make space for calling Pleasure in joyfully and more fully.

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Pleasure Toolbox:

Here are some very practical (and magical!) practices for Cultivating Darkness for Pleasure:

build a fort
bake with molasses, honey, or brown sugar (to invite sweetness in)
burn candles (invite light into darkness) or practice some candle magic!
do a reflective tarot pull or practice introspection
practice sacred rest
create mood lighting in your space- try a different colored lightbulb!
turn your technology off for a day

Journaling questions for today:

How will you honor the darkness as sacred and invite the returning light in during Solstice?

3-Card Tarot pull suggestion:

Card 1: What does my shadow have to tell me right now?

Card 2: What is ready to be composted and returned to the earth?

Card 3: How can I call in Pleasure this Winter?

Pleasure Homework, yay! Also, please share your own practices, tips, and magical tools with us by responding here or on our social media channels (@seagrapeapothecary) or in Seagrape Babes!

Small Spell:

Cast a Solstice Pleasure Spell! Write out what you're ready to let go of on one piece of paper, and seal it with a kiss to express gratitude to past you. Write out what you'd like to call in with the returning light on another piece of paper and smear a little honey or sugar water on it (and eat a spoonful of honey yourself- an offering of big Pleasure for your amazing self) to sweeten your wishes and desires. If you have access to a hearth, make a fire and feed both to the flame, releasing your wishes & desires and composting the old. If you don't have a hearth, doing this in a fire-safe container like a small bowl or cauldron will do the trick. Thank the flame for transporting your messages.

Share how you're inviting in pleasure with us, and cheer other babe's on their pleasure journey!

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